The saying that once you have a child your life will never be the same is true….well for me it is. While most women can give birth, very few fit the description of a mother. The birth of my son is the best thing that has ever happened to me. Since his birth, a lot has changed in my life. There are certain things that I use to do but now I do them no more. There are also certain things that I use to say but I say them no more. I am now transformed. I am a MOTHER.
I would often listen to other women talk about their obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) for neatness, how they would iron for the week and they have to do this and that and bla-bla-bla-blah every morning before work. I would often roll my eyes and be like, yeah right, whatever, you are too much. I knew back then that I was the complete opposite. I remember a few years ago how I would suddenly jump out of bed at the sound of my alarm, run to my closet, quickly grab something to iron for work then dash to the bathroom. This was my morning routine before I head to work every single day. Of course I would skip breakfast. Who needs breakfast when you can get a few minutes of extra sleep instead of using the time to prepare breakfast. Ask me how I do it and I will tell you how. Well, all that was before motherhood. I have now contracted OCD. My morning routine has changed tremendously. My clothes, along with that of my son, are now ironed from the night before or days in advance. I also now have to give myself an hour to hour and a half to prepare both myself and my son every week day. Oh, BTW, I no longer skip breakfast.
Before having my son, I was also very impulsive. This was often seen in my spending habits. Once I saw something that I like, whether fast food, jewelry, clothes, hair or shoes, it was immediately a must have. Now that my son is born, I exercise a lot of patience and more prudence when making decisions. No longer do I rush to buy things, but I now see how best I can do without it, use what I have or make my own. These days, for example, I rather to sport my natural hair and nails. I now save money, that I use to spend on things that I wanted instead of needed, towards my child’s education. So thanks to my munchkin, I am less impulsive but more patient.
Is there something or someone that you love and no matter how much of it or them you get, you just cannot be satisfied? Well, I have. I-L-O-V-E-S-L-E-E-P! I am a “sleepaholic.” Before my son was born, my sleeping habits were like the average single person. I would literally sleep about 20 hours each day of my weekend and wake up still feeling sleepy. Weekends are like one of the best things ever to have been created by God. Most weekends would see me getting out of bed only to use the rest room or to eat something, before hopping back to bed for another round of sleep. Occasionally, I would also laze in bed, in front the television, watching a few life time movies. Since the birth of my son, this is now a rarity as I can only sleep when my son sleeps. All my time and energy are now directed to taking part in his many activities, whether by supervising or being a participant. SLEEP? WHATS THAT AGAIN?
While I’ve always been a stay at home girl, I also love a great party. Before the birth of my son, I use to hook up with my girlfriends most weekends. Back then, the only thing I had on my mind to worry about was finding the best bikini and whether or not two weeks worth of dieting could magically fit me in my preferred choice of swimwear. Oh, how I miss those water parties. Apart from going out with my girlfriends, I use to spend hours on the phone and online taking crap with them like, “guuuurrrl, should I wear the nude shoes or the gold ones with this hot pink blouse.” Now that I have a son, my circle of friends and associates has gotten smaller. My now very minute circle and I don’t talk much these days. We save all that chatter for our yearly friends’ retreat. Let’s just say I am too busy doing what mommy does best – attending to my sonny.
Before, having my son, I use to snack a great deal. I totally hated cooking. Whenever I wasnt snacking, I was eating either processed or fast food. Unlike my bedroom, the kitchen was definitely not my favourite place. Surprisingly though, this has changed as I now spend a lot time in my kitchen. It’s not like I have a choice, my baby has to eat healthy. Thanks to my son,I’m now more domesticated. Can you believe it? I’m now preparing home cooked meals and blending natural juices. I also now try my hand at baking cookies, cakes and pies which my son loves. The kitchen has now become a fave of mine.
Life before motherhood also came with a lot of excruciating pain. For sixteen years I would experience pain four days out of every month due to menstrual cramps. I dreaded this time of month and would stock up on pain killers. Apart from my phone and cash, pain killers were a must have in my purse. I would even anticipate the pain and take them. If not, I would be totally embarrassed wherever and when I experienced cramps. I would cry uncontrollably and the floor would be my only refuge until the pain subsided. Now, since I became pregnant and gave birth to my baby, I no longer experience sever menstrual cramps. I also no longer walk around with pain killers. In fact, I can’t recall the last time I have taken one in the last three years.
Motherhood is now my best teacher. It has taught me responsibility, prudence, patience, organizational and time management skills and how to be thrifty, domesticated and practice healthy eating. Even though I am aware of the fact that I have more lessons to learn from motherhood, I know that it has transformed me into better woman. I AM A MOTHER.